It looks like Joanna Gaines can give a lot more than just interior decorating advice. The lifestyle guru took to Instagram on Nov. 4 to vent about the dreaded guilt moms can experience when feeling disconnected from their kids.
In her post, she promised that “mom-guilt” is a “never-ending cycle that leads to nowhere.” Nevertheless, she encouraged mothers to “look for grace in the moments” because it’s “the small wins that lead to the greatest investments in their hearts.”
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I took Emmie Kay out to the garden this morning and I let her lead and I just followed along in her imaginations and her curiosities (In all honesty I was too tired to come up with anything because mama and Crew haven't been sleeping great these days). She told me she wanted to pick flowers and put them in old books that only her and I would know about and then look for them later when we got older. We gathered some large old books in the shed and picked out our favorite flowers from the garden and then wrote our names and date in the books. We also pressed some petals that we could frame later to remind us of this special morning in the garden. One of the sweetest surprises for us both was when we opened up one of the books and found that someone else had done the same thing with some pretty leaves many years ago. It was like we stumbled on a treasure that reinforced how we would feel when we find these flowers again one day. I know at times it can be hard to find simple ways to connect with your kids. Especially in the tired and the hard and busy times in life. It can feel like it's all or nothing. But I really believe it's somewhere in the middle where the grace is extended and these simple, unplanned moments are actually the sweetest. I write all this for any of you out there who may experience "mom-guilt". I promise you that's a never ending cycle that leads to nowhere. Replace the word guilt with grace. Look for grace in the moments, the small wins that lead to the greatest investments in their little hearts. From one mom to another, stop being so hard on yourself. Don't spend another second focusing on failure, instead use whatever time and whatever energy you have and look for the moments where grace can be found. Because I'm telling you, this grace is sufficient. ✨
Joanna began her slideshow post with a story about a special day in the garden with her daughter Emmie Kay. “I just followed along in her imaginations and curiosities (in all honesty I was too tired to come up with anything because mama and Crew haven’t been sleeping great these days),” the Magnolia Market co-founder, 40, wrote. “She told me she wanted to pick flowers and put them in old books that only her and I would know about and then look for them later when we got older.”
It wasn’t until after they opened the book that something astonishing happened. Joanna and Emmie Kay, 7, “found that someone else had done the same thing with pretty leaves many years ago,” Joanna revealed. “It reinforced how we would feel when we find these flowers again one day.”
The special morning with her daughter inspired Joanna to share this story to shed light on experiences that all moms go through. The Magnolia Journal author insisted that many women will find themselves having a difficult time connecting with their children at some point. However, instead of focusing on failing, they should focus on “whatever time and whatever energy you have and look for the moments where grace can be found.”
The Instagram post accumulated over 14,000 comments, many of which praised the mom-of-five for her encouraging words and wisdom. “I love your talent and flair for design, but even more I love your tender heart… and that love is your first priority,” one user commented. “Such a life gift you’ve given to depleted mothers!” wrote another.
Joanna is the mother to children Drake, 12, Ella, 11, Duke, 9, Emmie Kay, and five-month-old Crew. The HGTV alum juggles raising her five kids, all while running a creative empire alongside her husband, Chip Gaines, 43. That said, it’s no surprise that the brown-haired beauty has inspiring words — ones which stem from her own personal experiences — for all moms out there.