Gwyneth Paltrow And Chris Martin's Quotes About Coparenting Their Kids

Coldplay frontman Chris Martin and Goop creator Gwyneth Paltrow are proud parents to kids Apple and Moses. After getting married in 2003, the couple decided to call it quits in 2013. Although they asked their fans to respect their privacy, the world couldn’t get enough of the term Gwyn and Chris used to describe their divorce, which was “conscious uncoupling.”

“It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate. We have been working hard for well over a year, some of it together, some of it separated, to see what might have been possible between us, and we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much we will remain separate,” they wrote in a joint statement. “We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.”

At the time, no one really knew what “conscious uncoupling” meant. While trying to explain her wording, the Iron Man star told Marie Claire she “failed” at getting her fans to understand her feelings. “I was really saying we’re in a lot of pain,” Gwyn said. “I think that was an instance where it really hit me that an insouciance with language from me is different than from somebody else.”

Although the pair weren’t getting back together, they were going to do whatever was best for their children, which was having a successful coparenting relationship. And so far, they’ve been doing a great job. Gwyn and Chris spent an equal amount of time with their son, Moses, on his 14th birthday and the actress also said she has a room in her house for the “Viva La Vida” musician.

“We are still doing it in our own way,” Gwyn told The Wall Street Journal in a previous interview. But even though they might get on each others’ nerves sometimes, Gwyn and Chris will always put their children first.

“What that really means is, ‘Even though today, you hate me and you never want to see me again, like, we’re going to brunch, ’cause it’s Sunday and that’s what we’ll do!'” the businesswoman said at the 2015 BlogHer conference in New York. “The children are our commitment.”

Scroll below to learn everything Chris and Gwyneth have said about coparenting!

It’s Not Always Easy, But They Make It Work

While stopping by The Drew Barrymore Show in September 2020, Gwyneth got candid about coparenting with Chris and said “it’s not as good as it looks” some days.

“It’s like you’re ending a marriage, but you’re still in a family. That’s how it will be forever,” the Goop skincare creator explained. “We have good days and bad days, but I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and what’s best for [our kids].”

“We have this idea that just because we break up, we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true,” Gwyn added, noting her relationship with the singer post-divorce is “better than” their marriage ever was. “So I think that it can be done,” she marveled.

Gwyneth Said It’s Been Hard

Two years after Gwyneth and Chris called it quits, she opened up about coparenting with her former lover at the #BlogHer15 conference. “It’s hard and I would never judge anyone for doing it any way,” Gwyneth said. “Just, for us, we thought if we could maintain the family even though we’re changing the shape of it, it would be, that would be our ideal scene and so, that’s what we’re trying to do.”

“And it’s been hard, and you know, like, we’ve gone through really difficult times with it but we’ve always said these children are our priority,” the actress added.

So Far, So Good

In 2016 Gwyneth told Entertainment Tonight, “You have to constantly let go. You have to let go of old ideas, old resentments. You have to put the kids first, which I think people have the idea of that, but then oftentimes, you struggle with it.” She continued, “If you once loved the person enough to have kids with them, you have to focus on what you still love about them and what’s beautiful about them and all the good aspects of your relationship. You still want a family, you’re just not in a couple. So, I acknowledge we’ve done it in an unorthodox way but it’s working for us.”

Coparenting at Thanksgiving

Chris and Gwyneth had no problem getting together with their kids to celebrate Thanksgiving in 2016. Gwyneth even shared a photo on her Instagram of Chris and then 10-year-old Moses with the caption, “Here’s to reunions, togetherness, family and love love love. Happy Thanksgiving Eve, everyone. Love, GP.”

Gwyneth Uses Some More Social Media

Just a couple of weeks later after calling Chris her “brother,” Gwyneth shared another pic of the “Fix You” musician and the kids sitting in front of a building stoop, with the caption, “42.” The Instagram post most likely was referencing the residence’s address and, probably, Coldplay‘s 2008 song of the same name.

So Happy Together

In November 2018, Chris and Gwyneth attended the Broadway musical Waitress with their children, so it’s clear there is no bad blood between the pair. “Gwyneth and Chris looked happy together and their kids too,” a source previously told Us Weekly. “They seemed to love the show. The kids were singing along and they looked like one big happy family.”