When it comes to coparenting, Kate Hudson is a pro. The How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days actress opened up about how she coparents with the three fathers of her three children — calling the entire situation “quite amazing” — in an interview earlier this week on the podcast “Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser.”
“When you get divorced, you’re still in a relationship. It’s just a different kind of relationship,” the 39-year-old said. “You’re going to have good days, you’re going to have bad days, you’re going to have good weeks, bad weeks.”
Kate’s three children come from her past relationships with their three different fathers. She had 15-year-old son Ryder Robinson with ex-husband and former Black Crowes lead singer, Chris Robinson, 7-year-old son Bingham Hawn Bellamy with ex-fiancé and Muse lead singer, Matt Bellamy, and newborn daughter Rani Rose Hudson Fujikawa with current boyfriend and musician Danny Fujikawa.
So what’s the secret to how Kate keeps everything running smoothly in her family? “It’s just communication,” she explained. Oh, and the fact that both parents are on the same page and have the same rules in each household. It also probably helps that the guys in her life happen to get along — something they all laugh about.
As for what mom Goldie Hawn passed down to Kate, that would be the idea that you should never speak badly about your exes in front of your kids because that can affect them. Even though the Cactus Flower actress has been with partner Kurt Russell since 1983, Kate recalled that she never heard anything bad about her father, musician Bill Hudson, while growing up.
“Kids are not only incredibly intelligent, but eventually they can make their mind up themselves,” Kate added. “They will see with their own eyes whatever needs to be seen and they need to come to that on their own terms. It’s not our place to tell them how to feel about the other parents. I think that’s so important.”
Given the status of this coparenting setup, Kate can tell that she and her kids’ dads are doing the right thing by just watching her children’s faces. “I also see this great feeling, a warm feeling, in my kids when they hear us talking about laughing and a real connection,” the Almost Famous star continued. “We might not have been able to live together and sustain the distance, but at the end of the day, there’s a real love there. When the kids feel that I think, to them, it makes them feel safe and good.”
You go, mama!