Kirstie Alley's Dating History: Bob Alley, Parker Stevenson

Kirstie Alley found love with several of her Hollywood costars over the years before her death at age 71. The Look Who’s Talking actress was married and divorced twice in her life and grew strong bonds with many of the entertainment industry’s leading men prior to her passing, announced on December 5, 2022.

“We are sad to inform you that our incredible, fierce and loving mother has passed away after a battle with cancer, only recently discovered,” her children, True and Lillie Parker, said in a statement posted to her Instagram.

“She was surrounded by her closest family and fought with great strength, leaving us with a certainty of her never-ending joy of living and whatever adventures lie ahead,” the statement continued. “As iconic as she was on screen, she was an even more amazing mother and grandmother.”

The Jenny Craig spokeswoman first tied the knot in 1970 to Bob Alley, but they ended up getting divorced seven years later. Kirstie didn’t meet her second husband, actor Parker Stevenson, until 1981 when they ran into each other at an L.A. restaurant. The duo later got married in 1983 and welcomed kids Lillie and William together. However, the former couple got divorced in 1997.

“There was no infidelity in my marriage, on either side … There was nothing other than maybe different goals in life,” the Drop Dead Gorgeous star told Entertainment Weekly in a previous interview, and Parker couldn’t agree more. “Kirstie and I are exact opposites,” he once told People. “That’s what made it so interesting, [but being opposites] makes for not a good marriage.”

Parker remembers their divorce as an “ugly process” that took their friendship away. “Kirstie and I are not friends now,” he said, “but we talk regularly about the kids. Will we be friends someday? I don’t know.” Although he and Kirstie don’t talk like they used to, the parents of two have always been “both nuts” about their children.

“He’s the only guy I know who reads his kids stories on morality,” Lewis Smith, Parker’s longtime friend said to People. “He has this book called Sticky Situations that asks, ‘How would you handle this?’”

As Kirstie continued to look for love elsewhere, she joked about her love life as a single mom of two. “I’m possibly doing this backward. I either need to find a husband or a really handsome roommate so that I am not afraid out on the farm,” the Hollywood icon tweeted in July 2020. “But then again, that could be a grave error and I could end up on Dateline or 20/20. Life [has] gotten so complicated.”

Scroll below to see Kirstie’s dating history through the years.

Patrick Swayze

When Kirstie was married to Parker, she admits she had an intense attraction to her North and South costar Patrick Swayze. Even though the actor was married to his wife, Lisa Niemi, the two lovebirds couldn’t deny how they felt for each other.

“Both of us were married,” Kirstie recalled to Entertainment Tonight in 2012. “We did not have an affair. But again, I think what I did was worse. Because I think when you fall in love with someone when you’re married, you jeopardize your own marriage and their marriage. It’s doubly bad.”

James Wilder

After her marriage to Parker ended, Kirstie began dating her much-younger Nevada costar James Wilder in 1997. Shortly after getting together, the pair got engaged. But sadly they ended their relationship within the same year.

“I just did some real soul searching. And I didn’t like myself. I didn’t like what I’d become. I’d sort of become something I wasn’t,” the actress previously recalled on Dateline. “I didn’t like the way I was in relationships. I didn’t like who I was choosing. I was making a lot of mistakes. So what I decided was to really prioritize my life into what was important to me and what I wanted to be known for by myself.”

John Travolta

Kirstie and her longtime friend John Travolta have a great relationship. “I almost ran off and married John. I did love him, I still love him. If I hadn’t been married I would’ve gone and married him and I would’ve been in an airplane because he has his own plane,” the A-lister previously gushed on Celebrity Big Brother UK.

She also told Howard Stern in 2013 that the Grease star was “the greatest love” of her life. “It took me years to not look at John as a romantic interest,” she said.