While you were sitting down with friends and family on Thanksgiving to share stories and look back at moments in your lives, Beverley Mitchell, from 7th Heaven fame, took it to her blog to reveal a heartbreaking moment that occurred in her life earlier this year.
The 37-year-old wrote a post on her “Growing Up Hollywood” blog to reveal that her and her husband, Michael Cameron, were expecting twins a few months ago, only for Beverley to suffer a miscarriage just weeks later.
“A few months back Michael and I were thrilled, we had just found out we were pregnant, and though we were surprised, we were excited,” Beverley wrote in her post. “It didn’t take long before we began to prepare for a life filled with more little people in it. And much to our surprise, we came to find out it was twins! After our shock, came acceptance and excitement.”
“A few weeks later, our new dream of our growing family came crashing down; we had a miscarriage,” Beverley added. “This was a shock. Honestly, my first instinct was to say I was fine, and to be honest; I was trying to be. I thought I had to be, for my family, for myself. I had to jump on a plane and go to work being surrounded by babies and kids while I was still miscarrying. That was interesting.”
Beverley, who married her husband in 2008, has two children: a daughter Kenzie who was born in 2013, and a son named Hutton who was born in 2015. Beverley also added this to her blog post: “I remember something one of my best friends told me during my first pregnancy, if the pregnancy is viable it will stick, if the baby (babies) are not viable they won’t. Though this makes perfect sense and was something I even said when I shared the news of our pregnancy to our closest friends, this challenged me. Because though it made sense in my head, my heart could not make sense of it.”
“I never really considered that I would miscarry being that I had already had two healthy pregnancies. This was my misconception, you see, I didn’t know much about miscarriages and I didn’t know many people who had miscarried, or so I thought. It wasn’t until I started sharing our loss that I found out many people I knew shared the same scars. I was now part of a group, the unspoken and hidden group who mourn their losses in the shadows. This was the hardest part, suffering in silence.”
“Every time I shared what we were going through I made people uncomfortable, no one ever knows what to say, and to be honest, there is nothing to say. Most people who are sharing their story, we aren’t looking for anything just the opportunity to share their story. It is with sharing it that the healing begins, the acceptance that it happened, it is when you ignore it or pretend that it never happened that you cause more pain. Dismissing it almost makes it worse.”
While this must have been a very tough part of her life to share with everyone, Beverley does make sure to reveal that her and her husband still hope to expand their family in the future: “We still have dreams of growing our family,” Beverley states. “But now more than ever, I look at Kenzie, Hutton, and Michael and just feel full. If we are blessed with more children they will fill us with more love, but for now, I look at my family and I am GRATEFUL, BLESSED, and THANKFUL.”
If you would like to read Beverley’s post you can head on over here.