“You will never need to convince the right person to love you. No matter what, you cannot change them, make them do the work, or get them to commit to you if they’re not ready to show up,” it read. “Change must be inspired from within, and actions are always louder than words.”
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I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but the truth is you can’t change people or force them to do the work. One of the worst things we do to ourselves is take rejection personally. People are who they are and it’s not up to you to try and change them. Sometimes you meet a person and they’re in a space where they’re ready to do the work, and sometimes, they’re not. That doesn’t make them bad or toxic, and it doesn’t make you unworthy. We have to stop making so much meaning out of other peoples journey. All too often, we treat unavailable love as a challenge to convert someone. We might be unconsciously feeding an old story that we have to work to be loved, or that we’re not good enough to be chosen. At some point, we have to stop getting on the train that leads to self-abandonment in the pursuit of external approval and validation. Consider that each of us is on our own soul mission. You don’t have control over when and how a person is ready to wake up, do their healing work, or change their patterns. This is a call to stop giving energy to the belief that rejection means you’re unworthy. Trust that with the right person, it won’t feel like a roller-coaster You won’t have to prove yourself constantly or dim your shine in order to be digestible for them. When it’s right, it won’t be so hard. When it’s right, you’ll consciously choose each other rather than grasping to be chosen. And some days, it will still be hard, because there’s no such thing as the perfect partner. But the idea that you need to chase love is driven by your wound. Your worth knows better. If you have the energy to chase love, then you have energy to channel into your creativity, to pursue your dreams and do things that make you feel alive. Don’t misuse your energy by trying to convince them to show up. Your heart is sacred, let that be known. @sheleanaaiyana
The quote was taken from the social media account Rising Woman. In the caption, they wrote, “I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but the truth is you can’t change people or force them to do the work. One of the worst things we do to ourselves is take rejection personally. People are who they are and it’s not up to you to try and change them.”
Although Ryan and Shayna didn’t reveal why they broke up, the pair have been having some problems for quite some time now. Since they started dating in 2013, they’ve separated three times, and according to the Daily Mail, Ryan is already dating someone new. “They remain good friends, each other’s biggest supporters and will always cherish their time together as a couple,” the American Idol‘s rep told People about their client and Shayna.
The Live With Kelly and Ryan cohost also spoke out about his “roller coaster” relationship with the fashionista during a previous episode of the ABC talk show. “You know, when we drive by an amusement park, I always look at the roller coaster and go, ‘Look, there we are,'” Ryan joked on Live. “It’s all definitely upside down loops. It’s no Thunder Mountain, it’s definitely the Mind Bender.”
As Ryan vacations with his new love in Mexico, Shayna is working on being by herself. Judging by their history, the former lovers might get back together before the year is over. After all, they never stay apart for long.