Just because Hilaria Baldwin has a busy life at home with her four kids doesn’t mean she has forgotten about her 23-year-old stepdaughter, Ireland Baldwin. The 35-year-old addressed haters on Instagram who said she doesn’t post about husband Alec Baldwin‘s oldest kid as much as she does with her own brood.

“Sometimes my language about my biological children does not include her. Because I did not birth her and I never want to disrespect the fact that she has a wonderful mother,” Hilaria, 35, explained on Thursday, April 18. “But this will never take away from how much I love her, need her in my life, and think that she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Please don’t look for trouble where there is none.”

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I rarely address being a stepmom, but it is part of our family. I always want to deal with it with such care…so often you hear horror stories about evil stepparents and I wanted to make sure I did right by the family I was stepping into when I married Alec. I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise. Having a stepchild is a delicate matter. Especially one who is grown. I think my relationship with her has been so successful because I never tried to step in as her mommy. She has a good mother, who I have tremendous respect for…and I put myself in Kim’s shoes: if my children ever had a stepmother, I’d want her to let me be number one. When I met Ireland, I said to Alec: if she is not ok with our relationship, I cannot go further. Family is first and she needed to be ok with me. We have never had a fight or a bad moment. Nor have I with her mother. Ireland and I love each other and she knows that I am here for her…and I know that she is here for me. I am inspired by her, look up to her (not just height wise 😂)…she gave her father away at our wedding, is the best big sister anyone could ask for…and I give her space. I don’t ever expect her to be anyone other than herself. As someone who loves her, my job was not to step in and take over…but rather respect what had been for the first 15 years of her life and then become a part of that, in a way that works for everyone. So yes, sometimes my language about my biological children does not include her. Because I did not birth her and I never want to disrespect the fact that she has a wonderful mother. But this will never take away from how much I love her, need her in my life, and think that she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Please don’t look for trouble where there is none. Love you @irelandbasingerbaldwin …ps after writing this and using the word “step” so many times, I think I know why it is called a “stepparent” now 😂🤪🤔

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Next to the heartwarming caption was a picture of Hilaria and Ireland together. Alec shares Ireland with ex-wife Kim Basinger. The pair got married in 1993 and later divorced in 2002. 10 years after they called it quits, Alec married Hilaria and, since, has welcomed four beautiful children together: Carmen, 5, Rafael, 3, Leonardo, 2, and Romeo, 11 months.

“I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise,” Hilaria added. “Ireland and I love each other and she knows that I am here for her … and I know that she is here for me. I am inspired by her, look up to her (not just height wise 😂) … she gave her father away at our wedding, is the best big sister anyone could ask for … and I give her space. I don’t ever expect her to be anyone other than herself.

After seeing Hilaria’s beautiful post, Ireland quickly responded back. “I prayed for two lesbian moms from the womb,” the model joked in the comments. “But having two moms this way will do. ♥️”

We love this dynamic!